Why is knowing how to recover from failure significant? Although the feeling of failure may be tormenting and difficult to get through, failure is often the very thing needed to push us in the right direction. Understanding our feelings when we are down will help us appreciate our feelings when we are up.

Therefore, without failure, we would be less capable of compassion, empathy, kindness and great achievement. Failure allows for upward movement outside of the comfort zone. But how to bounce back from our tough times?

Give power to what knocks you down in the first place. Giving power to what knocked us down does not mean that we are telling our mistakes that they won. Instead, it does live under talking about our failure all the time, and sharing that to others in order to draw new lessons. Energy grows where energy goes. When a person has a conversation about something rapidly, when this person shares it with another person, he or she is giving energy to that thing.

Give yourself a thousand second chances. Have grace with yourself like your job is not to get it perfect. Your job is just to get better, to get to your best. What is necessary to understand is that your best five years ago is not your today. Avoid to judge yourself based on what you know now. Here is the key, look back at a decision you made in 1999 or 2010 and judge yourself for something you did back then, based on what you know now.

Stay patient. When we fail, we may feel like a dark cloud is hovering over our head, following our every move. Everything feels pointless and we wonder why we are even making an effort in the first place. It feels like we know how to think positively, but those positive encouragement are surrounding like a nuisance to us. Patience is an important tool in overcoming frustration. It allows us to suspend judgment long enough to make informed decisions, thus paving the path to a fulfilled life. Patience itself is less about waiting, it is more about building the resilient necessary to change our perspective and grow from our mistakes.

Learning through failure. It is important to take time and think what exactly is happening to you and what you can learn from it. Taking time to listen to your own thoughts, to someone else, and to what is really going on around you will help you to retry and succeed.Therefore, what you need to do is to analyze what went wrong and why. Pay attention to your feelings by always remembering that in every crisis, there is an opportunity. Failure leaves clues to success; search for them high and low and find out if it is your mindset that needs to be changed or if there are other factors influencing the results.

Source: The book “Bounce Back”—written by Susan Kahn